Look, no matter what phase of your life you're in right now, whether you're in the new, exciting phase, like the puppy love of a business or relationship, or whatever you're doing, you're so excited about it, or in the steady phase, or momentum phase, no matter where you're at, at some point, you're going to hit a wall.
You're just going to.
And when you hit a wall, it is very interesting when a person hits a wall because initially when you hit a wall, you feel like everything is going to collapse.
You feel like everything's coming down.
You feel like every single thing you are stressed out about, you're worried about,. is going to collapse.
It's almost like you feel it's the end of life.
It's like end of the world is coming, right?
And the way you behave and react when you hit the wall creates a habit in your life.
And one of the worst habits, there's a lot of people that say that the worst habit in their life is this and this is the worst habit, I would tell you one of the worst habits, if not the worst habit in life is quitting.
Quitting is a terrible habit to pick up because you're going to keep quitting in your life.
You'll keep quitting in your life and the next thing you know, every single time you hit a wall, you'll quit.
So, I have a system that I'm going to talk to you about today, 10 different points why people quit and if you go through this, on what you need to do for yourself, I'm going through this right now, no matter what you're going through right now in the quitting phase, there's something to do to overcome it.
No matter what you're going through right now.
But before I even get into it, I want you to even think about it in a complete different way.
Think about how old you are right now.
I don't know how old you are right now.
I want you to go back 10 years ago.
If you're 30, you were 20.
What were you worried about that was keeping you up at night at 20 years old?
10 years ago.
What were you worried about?
What was keeping you up at night?
Was it a relationship, a girlfriend, at school a teacher, professor, parent, argument, crisis, car payment, tickets, suspension, DUI?
What was it, 10 years ago?
Do you even worry about that today?
Was it the end of the world? No?
The same thing is with business.
Every single person that builds a big business, at many different points of their career have to slay some dragons.
You just have to slay some dragons.
And the better you go within time, the easier it gets on slaying the next dragon.
So now let's talk about why people quit, 10 different reasons.
#1:
The number one reason why people quit where you hit a wall and say things like, "I don't think I can do this anymore!
Why am I putting myself through this? I can't do this anymore!
Why am I putting myself through this?"
You'll be in the car - I did this many, many different times in my life.
The number one reason why I believe people get into the quitting phase and why people quit is they're overwhelmed.
You're simply overwhelmed.
And when we're overwhelmed, in that state, that's when you either increase your identity as a leader, you stay the same, or you go lower.
It's very simple.
So when you're overwhelmed, what could cause overwhelm?
For instance, think about it this way.
One of them could be you're performing, you're building a business, and the next thing you know, one of your competitors is beating you.
You feel overwhelmed.
And then you notice somebody that opened a business, even they have less experience than you, but they're beating you.
You still feel overwhelmed.
It could be you're not performing at a level that you should be performing, you're overwhelmed.
It could be somebody that's a mentor of yours, or somebody that's pushing you from the top, you feel overwhelmed.
It could be somebody that's challenging you, you feel overwhelmed.
It could be certain financial issues you're facing, you could feel overwhelmed.
It could be you're running the business, and you kind of are telling yourself, "You know, honestly, I don't think I can run a business because I'm dealing with my marriage here and my relationship and my kids here and my mom told me the other day I'm not being a good son, and this person over here and that text I got from my old friend, and I'm no longer a loyal Lakers fan or a Cowboy's fan.
And I just feel so overwhelmed.
I don't think I can handle this!
I'm overwhelmed.
So it creates pressure.
You feel overwhelmed, pressure, easiest thing to do is what?
I quit.
I can't do this anymore.
By the way, this is not just in business.
This happens in sports.
When you're playing sports, when you're a kid, and you're playing for a coach that's very much pushing everybody.
If you played for Bill Belichick, how do you think he is in the locker room?
Do you really think he's like, "Hey, good job, guys, you did phenomenal.
Don't worry, we lost.
Do you think Bill Belichick is an easy coach to play for?
You play for me you're going to win championships, but it's not easy playing for a coach like that.
If you're going to make a decision to play for someone like that, they're going to push you.
So imagine you're a 16-year-old kid, you're playing for this coach.
And you're number six, you're the sixth man on the basketball team.
You want to get starting time, but you're not because this other kid is taking the position away from you, and the coach is pushing you.
You feel pressured.
You come home.
You don't know what to do.
You're talking to your mom.
You're talking to your dad, you don't want to bring it up to your dad that you want to quit basketball.
Your mom says, "Maybe you ought to quit. Don't worry about it, baby, it's too much pressure."
Maybe your mom tells you go do it.
And then that's a habit, on what you do in that moment.
That's a habit on what you do in that moment.
That's the overwhelm part.
The good news is, yes, you're overwhelmed.
If you can get through the overwhelming phase, you're going to grow to be a whole different person after that.
#2:
Lack of results.
No matter what you do, if a person gets lack of results, and a lack of results is purely a reflection of lack of activity.
Lack of results is not going to happen accidentally.
Let me explain to you what I mean by this.
Let's just say you give me somebody that's never played basketball ever in their lives.
They've never played basketball.
You may be watching this saying, "Honestly, Pat, I can't stand it when you use basketball analogies on Valuetainment because I don't follow basketball."
No problem.
I want you, okay?
You've never played basketball before.
You never shot a single shot in basketball in your life before.
I bring you in.
You're 20 years old.
And you and I, our goal is for you to make 10 shots, from the free throw line.
Okay?
If you have to make 10 shots from the free throw line, what are the chances of you making 10 shots from the free throw line if I only give you 10 options? 10 chances.
What are the chances?
Can we say zero?
Because you've never played basketball before.
So you're going to shoot an air ball, you're going to shoot it over.
And maybe you'll get lucky and make one.
You've never shot basketball before.
But here's the second equation.
What if I tell you you have an unlimited amount of shots you take.
You think you'll eventually make 10 shots?
Yes.
See, lack of results, which is the shots you make, is a reflection of lack of activity, which if you only take shots and you miss, of course it's not going to work.
An entrepreneur, a businessman, you need to take so much activity to create results because you're an amateur, you're not an expert yet.
And so the formula of capitalism, guys, I will tell you one thing about capitalism and sales.
People hate it when I say this.
It's 100% proven where anybody can make it.
Anybody can make it.
Anybody can make it in the world of sales and capitalism because it's purely a mathematical formula, simple as that.
It's purely a mathematical formula.
But when somebody doesn't get results, because of their activity, then they quit.
And they think it's the industry.
You know what, it didn't work.
Real estate didn't work out for me.
How come it has for hundreds of thousands of people?
You know, this didn't work out for me.
That didn't work out for me.
No, you're simply creating a habit of quitting.
Point #3.
Point number three is self-sabotage.
Self-sabotage, my gosh, that's a dangerous one because self-sabotage happens when you're all by yourself and nobody's around you.
So you're in the car, you're going home, you're by yourself.
You're telling yourself things, you're feeding yourself things.
And then you start believing it.
And so one of the things that you will realize is, you know, the same people, the world has roughly 7.2 billion people living in it today. 7.2 billion people living in it today.
Roughly 400 million are entrepreneurs out of the 7.2 billion.
Only 400 million are entrepreneurs.
How many do you think quit?
But they tried entrepreneurship at some point.
Think about that. 7.2 billion, 400 million.
How many quit?
So why do you think those people quit?
Because at some point they convinced themselves that they can't do it.
At some point they listened to themselves that they can't do it.
And the other guy who makes it, he listened to himself and made himself believe that he can't do it, when he was alone, and nobody was around.
Self-sabotage is when you're in your car by yourself.
Self-sabotage is when you're in your office by yourself.
Self-sabotage is when it's at night and everybody's asleep, and you're feeding yourself in bed, saying, "My gosh, I can't do it."
Self-sabotage happens when you're all alone by yourself and here's the good news about self-sabotage.
You ready for the good news on self-sabotage?
The same effort that it takes to sell yourself, that you can't do something, is the same exact effort it takes to sell yourself that you can do it!
It's just you're a great salesman.
You're just selling this product.
Just start selling this product.
This product says you can do it.
This product says you can't do it.
This is an easier product to sell.
It's the same effort.
So start sabotaging yourself, and tell yourself, I can do it.
And look what happened.
Mark my words, when I got started as a brand spanking new entrepreneur, they told me put a list of affirmations, things you read to yourself every day.
I had it everywhere.
One time a mentor of mine came to my house and I'll never forget this.
He came to my house and he was taking a shower, because this was a good friend of mine.
And next thing you know he's in there for an hour.
I'm concerned, why are you in there for an hour?
He comes out and he's screaming.
Because he's reading all my affirmations, and he's fired up.
Lit up.
Man, I feel so good! I said, "I read that every single day."
Man, I feel so good right now.
I said, "I read it every day."
I didn't believe in myself.
I was the guy that gave up on every single thing.
Let me tell you one thing about this cat here.
My dad, till today, has a trophy on his desk, in his house.
It's the only trophy his son ever got.
This six-four, 240 body frame only got one trophy in sports in his life.
Do you know what the trophy was?
We lost to a team by 100 points.
When I was 14 years old.
100 points we lost.
And we got a trophy for losing.
You would say at least stop the game after 50 points, these kids, put them through - 100 point trophy.
He's still got it.
So I'm not coming from a background of I was an all-star pitcher and a baseball and basketball starting lineup.
Far from it.
I never played organized sports in my life.
Never played organized sports in my life.
Ever.
But self-sabotage, you've got to learn the art of going to the next side.
Next, #4,
problem magnet.
Some people are problem magnets.
I call it crap magnet.
If you want to call it.
They just tend to attract crap in their lives.
And one of the reasons why people attract crap in their lives, and this is going to be strange when you hear this, and it's going to be tough for some people to hear this, one of the reasons why some people attract crap in their lives is because they want to.
And I'll tell you why they want to.
Because if you have crap in your life, you have an out why you didn't make it.
So you have to attract crap because it's like, Well, I didn't make it because my family was going through this.
Well, I didn't make it because you know, my car broke down.
Well, I didn't make it because my teacher. . .
Well, I didn't make it because I had a kid and I was a single father.
Well, I didn't make it because my marriage didn't work.
Well, I didn't make it because I got a DUI.
I didn't make it because my car broke down.
No, you kind of want those things to happen to you so you can advertise it and say that's why you didn't make it.
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